What is Conscious Unparenting and is it Right For You? (Of Course It Is, Silly)

Kim Kinziefriendship, guilt, non-judgment, our book4 Comments

If you’ve stopped by our blog and maybe even read our book, you probably have a vague notion of the concept “Conscious Unparenting.” Perhaps now you’re wondering: what does it look like in one’s day-to-day life, and is this the right philosophy for me? Great questions…Let’s discuss. You might recall a year ago or more when Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin split up. Rather than get a lowly divorce like the rest of us plebeian slugs, they opted for a conscious uncoupling. Of course this begs to be mocked, so that’s what Dawn and I did one summer afternoon when discussing potential book titles – hence the term “conscious unparenting.” The more we thought about it, however, the more we realized that the title truly fits what we’re trying to accomplish, as we’re not asking our readers to disengage from their children and families, but rather to intentionally begin the process of doing less “parenting” and more enjoying. For example, one of the biggest issues I face is complete cluelessness when it comes to discipline. I grew up without any sort of discipline whatsoever, while my husband was raised in an authoritarian regime. Together we’re a hot mess, as we each struggle to find a middle ground. In my attempt to do better than our parents (because that’s what we’re expected to … Read More

The Battle of the Screens

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I’m in Vermont this weekend visiting family and stumbled across an article in the local paper entitled: 3,000 Miles With the Kids, on a Roadtrip to Boredom.  After just having survived a four-hour journey  with my 2 boys, this article naturally caught my attention. The author, concerned about her children’s growing addiction to screens, decided to take a long roadtrip with her kids (ages 3 and 6) with no electronics. Yes, you read that right:  no phones, ipads, DVD players, handheld gameplayers…not even an ipod.   She sought to teach them to deal with their boredom, which is an important tool in accessing creativity (I’m living proof:  my boredom being home with 2 toddlers drove me to write a book) I applauded the author and wondered if I had the guts to do the same.  My boys, ages 5 and 8 are definitely addicts.  I dont worry as much about my 8 year old.  He has many interests and seems to have a solid internal barometer that tells him when he’s had too much. My 5 year old on the other hand, is a true junkie.  Like a heroin addict, he’s always looking for his next score.  Every car ride comes with the request:  “Can I play on your phone?”  Every free minute he wants a screen:  to play a game, watch a show, … Read More