Halloween Really IS Scary!

Kim Kinziehelicopter parenting, humor, the '70sLeave a Comment

I wrote this piece a year ago for Motif Magazine, so the Ebola reference is no longer timely.  Everything else applies though.  Hope it gives you a good laugh… Halloween is the time of year when it’s fun to be scared. On this year’s quest for all things terrifying, I stumbled across The Halloween Safety Guide. I don’t live in a town tormented by Michael Meyers so I never felt that Halloween was so dangerous it needed its own safety guide. Was I missing something? I had to find out. What a scream! The Halloween Safety Guide did not disappoint. There’s more fear mongering here than the news coverage of the Ebola virus.    Here are some of the invaluable tips this site offers to parents of trick-or-treaters: Check for local sex offenders and make sure your kids stay away from their houses.  Technically every home sort of reeks of pedophilia on Halloween – all those grown-ups luring children to their front doors with the promise of candy. The good news: there is no correlation between Halloween and increased incidents of child abduction. Perhaps it’s because kids travel in small packs and often dress as ghouls or adults, making them unappealing prey for your average child molester. Just a guess… Know the route your child will take and make then check in with … Read More

Summer: A Great Time to Exploit, I Mean Make, New Friends

Kim Kinziefriendship, non-judgment, summer6 Comments

Last year I started out excited and optimistic for a fun-filled summer, but ended up broke, overweight and miserable, literally counting down the hours until that first day of school.   This year I’m more realistic. I know summer will be like running a marathon. Those first few miles are pure bliss, when you feel like you could run forever. As the miles tick by, you gently move from mild exhaustion to “holy shit – I can’t do this anymore!” Then you hit the homestretch in which you’re dehydrated, delusional and possibly have diarrhea running down your thighs but you’re just too tired to care.   That’s summer with young children when you’re a stay-at-home mom, unless of course, you can afford 8+ weeks of camp. So how can we survive summer? There’s only one way: spend time with friends. You can’t do this alone – seriously – so if you don’t have a host of fellow stay-at-home moms with whom you can spend time, get out there and make some new ones. Forget about trying to find friends who are completely compatible; you’re in crisis mode so it’s time to start seeing the good in all types of parents – enough with the judgment and divisiveness. Here are some of the women you want to couple up with this summer: … Read More

More Fuel for Grounding Those Helicopters

Kim Kinziehelicopter parenting, our bookLeave a Comment

In our book and on our blog, we make the case for moving away from helicopter parenting and toward a style that’s less kid-centric, more laid back.  We recognize that it’s not always easy to let go and give up control, but it’s necessary for everyone. As we here at Conscious Unparenting note, taking a step back is best for YOU, so you can devote some of that freed up energy to taking care of your own needs as well as those of your kids.  As research shows, it’s best for your children to help them develop self-esteem, independence and critical life skills such as conflict resolution, negotiation, and dealing with rejection.  In case you need to hear it from the experts (as opposed to a couple of middle-aged women who seem to want to justify their time away from their families), here’s a new study conducted by Brigham Young.  My only disagreement with this article: the notion that “helicopter parenting is relatively uncommon.”  Not from my vantage point. I’d love to hear your thoughts, and what you’ve done to ground your helicopter.  Or maybe you feel a bit lost and need some help or suggestions on being more laid-back.  Comment here and we’ll write back. Please like & share: