In our book and on our blog, we make the case for moving away from helicopter parenting and toward a style that’s less kid-centric, more laid back. We recognize that it’s not always easy to let go and give up control, but it’s necessary for everyone.
As we here at Conscious Unparenting note, taking a step back is best for YOU, so you can devote some of that freed up energy to taking care of your own needs as well as those of your kids. As research shows, it’s best for your children to help them develop self-esteem, independence and critical life skills such as conflict resolution, negotiation, and dealing with rejection. In case you need to hear it from the experts (as opposed to a couple of middle-aged women who seem to want to justify their time away from their families), here’s a new study conducted by Brigham Young. My only disagreement with this article: the notion that “helicopter parenting is relatively uncommon.” Not from my vantage point.
I’d love to hear your thoughts, and what you’ve done to ground your helicopter. Or maybe you feel a bit lost and need some help or suggestions on being more laid-back. Comment here and we’ll write back.